I remember relationships where I would have secret desires for sex and I would manipulate my girlfriend to get what I desired and when she would find out I would talk until she would no longer accuse me. Then I would be forgiven because she would be normal to me again. My sin was apparently taken away from me and I could make a fresh start form the starting point where I had been before my 'sin'.
Then I would start my abuse again at some point in time. Because I hadn't changed. I still had the same mind set and the same acceptances and allowances so I was still as abusive as before.
It is obvious that forgiveness opens the door to repeated abuse. Therefor self forgiveness as solution to change self once and for all to never abuse again.
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